Dr. Wayne Dyer spoke of creating your own happiness and your own success, and referenced a wonderful quote by Henry David Thoreau – “If one advances confidently in the direction of one’s dreams, and endeavors to live the life which one has imagined, one will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”
Mr. Dyer went on to explain that it is our thoughts and our imaginations that create our success and happiness. If we can imagine the life we want to live and advance confidently in that direction, success and happiness will naturally follow. This lesson is also found in a wonderful story shared by Mr. Dyer in this interview:
There was an old wise cat and a small kitten in an alleyway. The old cat saw the kitten chasing its tail and asked, “Why are you chasing your tail?”
To it the kitten replied, “I’ve been attending cat philosophy school and I have learned that the most important thing for a cat is happiness, and that happiness is located in my tail. Therefore, I am chasing it: and when I catch it, I shall have happiness forever.”
Laughing, the wise old cat replied, “My son, I wasn’t lucky enough to go to cat philosophy school, but as I’ve gone through life, I too have realized that the most important thing for a cat is happiness, and indeed that it is located in my tail. The difference I’ve found though is that whenever I chase after it, it keeps running away from me, but when I go about my business and live my life, it just seems to follow after me wherever I go.”
Take a moment to imagine the life that would bring you a sense of success and happiness. Hold that picture in your mind and soon you will find that you don’t need to chase after success and happiness, because as you live the life that you’ve imagined for yourself, those things will follow close behind.
‘You can’t appreciate the highs without the lows’.
For a long time, I believed this to be true, that life must be a number of pitfalls and rises in order as to be complete. But recently (as recently as today), I have found that not to be the case. The belief is based on an alleged system by which the ‘privileged’ are unable to understand the struggles of others. The major misunderstanding is that, for each individual, the worst thing they have experienced, is in fact that ‘the worst they have experienced’. One does not have to go through trauma to understand pain. If the theorem was in fact correct, why is it that successful and privileged people seem to be happy?
Here is the trick, instead of viewing life in terms of ups and downs, and looking at the outcome why not try view it carefree system from a happy approach. You will be happier as time goes by and no hanger of outcome based living.
As I’ve mentioned previously, they key to happiness is not in what you have or what you can do but in how you feel. If you are confident, true to yourself, with a good positive attitude, you will, in your core element to be happy. By that logic, there is nowhere to go but up. Anything you do, gain or achieve will take you on to being happier. Happiest is individual to each person and their ultimate goals.
Over the last 12 months, I have been
and the happy approach to a pretty life. I said, to my husband the other day ‘I am really happy in myself and my life right now’. Having had a fantastic day today, pursuing projects I desire and spending time with my husband, I clarified than in today, I am happier than I was yesterday. Yesterday was still a great day, yet I could appreciate today being better without drawing on any negatives, in hindsight from yesterday.
As with almost everything in life, it all begins with you. Once you get yourself to a place where you can live a life true to yourself, you will find that down points no longer exist in life for you will have made peace with yourself and banished your demons. One of the first steps I can offer in advice is, to remember that you do not have to be friends with everyone.
Once you feel happy, the world opens up in a new way to you, allowing you to see past the negatives and into the potential. Once in this world, it becomes addictive and you will never again wish to return a world of downs. So remember to be kind to yourself, be honest with yourself, be true to yourself. Above all be confident, because you are awesome and attitude is everything.