Dreaming of more time to do something for yourself? Ever feel like putting a note up on your door “its mummy’s time now”.
For me its not about having “me” time it’s about Finding it.
What defines quality time with “me” anyway? Time is a gift and how we choose to use time is ours to decide. We all have something in common that is time. We have the time to care for others yet we don’t always make the time for ourselves. And self love is about caring for yourself and choosing a life of joy not regret.
If we wait for time to arrive it probably will catch up with our busy mum lives and move past us at a rapid rate. You see time is something that should be cared for- it is so precious. Our kids go up so quickly and we can’t remember what we did yesterday when someone asks. That’s because we need to reflect on the importance of memorable moments with how you use your time. Sure there are 24 hours in a day and we have to sleep, eat, exercise, meditate, shower, well the list goes on and on.
I’ve spent the last eight years with my children and devote more time to my children than my husband. That is because my husband works long hours and travels. We all need our loving and shared partner time too. But for now it’s now time for me to do something for myself. Sssh, Don’t tell anyone its healthy to want to do something for you!
Sounds strange or super selfish but i like to call it “Unselfie”
Working mothers have always seemed ahead of the class. But the truth about mums time is we are all hard working mums. Where did that spare time go when i had a baby at home. Really? you expect me to remember. Some days i was lucky to get a shower and brush my hair in the early stages of having a baby at home. I think i was washing dishes and cleaning the house. Maybe i should of taken my mother in laws advice ‘housework can wait’. In all honesty I really felt my time was having a sneaky coffee and that was my mummy time. Yes, every mummy needs her time. It makes us better humans and mums.
In the context of motherhood i never remember when the role of being a woman to being a mother really ended or started. As part of my foundation i think i’ve been mothering all my life. Mothers are helpers and they are good at solving problems. But one problem they mess up is how to make time for themselves.
Motherhood is a long gig (well worth it!!!!) and its probably the most rewarding job i’ve ever had yet something inside of me says i want more. I want to be more. After breastfeeding, bottle-feeding, changing nappies, pram pushing, learning to walk, solids making, and the lack of sleep i still would not swap anything. I’ve rejoiced in the big milestones now i am ready for my next milestone.
This is “Mummy Time”
As i lay in bed last night i thought I’m not done with this motherhood thing yet but i realised that my time is so important. There is no point being jealous of what other mums have ultimately its up to us to make the life we want. Whatever you want to do allow those ideas to gallop out of you.
The moment I gave my ideas a place to live, it was if more and more came galloping out of me-Ash Ambirge
It might started off as a slow burn for me but, I started writing this blog a little while back out of love. Perhaps, i got that niggly feeling i had to do something. Then, something inside of me happened I got with my spirituality. It was my time to turn my self-worth into what i love. The love turned something negative into a beautiful positive. I started to wake up and it felt beautiful to write. Audience or no audience it was just me and my little way to discover i was putting a mind and body connection out in the world. I started to write and i still do write everyday. This is where it began nourishing that little seed that meant trusting yourself. I still remember when i created my first ever hashtag to love and appreciate life #365spiritualshifts . Here’s something i created of my beautiful, messy, loving and magical world.
You see I’ve been juggling the supermom stardom and the work-life balance thing. I’ve been lucky to get a small glimpse somedays into my own time. That’s why I’m writing this so you don’t have to wait for the ‘perfect time’ to do something beautiful you want. I love to help people find their self-worth and inner gorgeousness and release the fear of never giving up on challenges we face. You have every reason to make time. It does not have to be perfect. Self-worth provides us with with deep sense of confidence, belief, self-assurance, and belonging. I’ve spent years in the personal development world teaching and educating. What I’ve learnt is we must be open to new paths, new attitudes and working with what we have.
In all the mess, magic and joy in the world that comes with family i would not change a thing!
You see we are all amazing we just need to make more time for the things that matter. Those tiny moments and amounts of time that we could be doing other things yet we don’t because we weigh up the most priority needs and often some things fall like the housework. But i have to start letting go of what is important and find my way again.
If i had my chance i would not change a thing. Sure its been a tough road but i believe tough challenges are the victories that make us stronger in mind and body. You see this is motherhood and being a mum means the road is different each day. The day breaks and the unexpected is coming. My heart is filled with love for my kids and i’m not even half way through their life … waaaaaahhhh! in this moment i realise i have the best of both worlds. Ssssh life is pretty grand.
Sometimes i think why i earth do i want to do something for me. But deep down writing makes me a better person, a better mum, a better friend, a better daughter and a better on earth. The truth is i found myself already when i look within. I am blown away with the gifts we have been given and if we had to choose to use those gifts we will survive and come out on top. Sure we are tired and have a complain. I find myself changing my ways to be more confident and positive.
I want to tell myself and other mothers that its ok. You are ok. You are doing such a great job. We are all human and sure you need to exercise, need that coffee, or that break. Whatever you do today do something that rocks your heart, that make you feel like a better version of yourself. Go do it now because this is motherhood.
Thank you for sharing your the time to read this. If you want to join me to change your perceptions or attitudes i’m running a webinar.