How to live carefree without the outcome?
RELEASE ATTACHMENT TO OUTCOME
I’m sure you listen but, why haven’t you been able to get where you want. Stop being a bitch and reframe your thinking.
You may be stuck and it’s not that you shouldn’t care. Rather be less stressed about the end result. If we are not making memories we miss out on what is really going on. Caring is good and it is important, and it’s absolutely 100% okay to want what you want..
But when you get so attached to things having to turn out in one specific way in order for them to be deemed a “success” then you set yourself up for disappointment.
Often things turn out way faster and better than we can imagine with our current, limited perspective. And sometimes the path and the outcome look very different than what we originally planned. All or nothing attitude is what is linked to the outcome. We set ourselves up for failure with this thinking and thus not actually completing what we really want and where we want to go in life.
Carefree life and carefree thinking is a way of feedback with cause rather than failure. Living carefree life has nothing to do with not reaching our goals and ask yourself if the outcome would be such a critical judgement if you turn around and things work out differently.
Who are you upset with and What are you upset at?
Make a conscious effort moment by moment to appreciate what’s awesome right now.
Set a goal, shoot for it, but realise that as you take action and learn more about yourself and what you want, the path to get there may change.
Just to prove to you are not alone, there are so many self help books out there written about our negative thinking. If we have a carefree happy approach to our daily outcomes we could in fact train our minds to talk ourselves into positive outcomes rather than the perfection road. So what, if there may be bumps or shifts but that doesn’t mean that you are off track. Bumps are not failure, they are feedback that is passed on to our thoughts that can improve and help us respond to certain situations.